Happy Monday, HOPE-lovers and Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. Day!
I won’t beat around the bush…2018 is starting off on a very HEAVY topic. It’s not because of my want but due to our collective need.
Today, as we celebrate one of history’s most renowned civil rights leaders, we are more cognizant of those who have been, or are still, oppressed, persecuted, harassed, and mistreated.
And for me, I’m asking, “What can I do?”
Sexual harassment seems to be EVERYWHERE, so, is another post about it just white noise at this point? Not if it keeps happening.
To be honest, I don’t want to engage this topic. I’m utterly disgusted by what the light is revealing, but it JUST KEEPS OCCURRING!?
Further, I’m unsure how motivated we are (myself included) in actually eradicating this evil.
Let me be clear from the get-go: I believe that we all have “skin in this game.”
Now, when it comes to sexual harassment, rape, molestation, sexual slavery, and other predatorial contexts, the majority of us are all on the same page. We find these deplorable!
Since this is true, I have some questions…
Why does this keep happening?! And why at seemingly increasing rates?
And here’s where I will step on some toes…
Why do we celebrate, encourage, embrace, contribute, and fund what has been termed “locker room” behavior?
Could our cultural “consent” or open-mindedness be a gateway through which this corruption walks?
Go back to the fall of 2017 for a moment. In the same breath, we both condemned Harvey Weinstein and commemorated Hugh Hefner. And this confirmed that Howard Stern is America’s moral barometer. Stern called Weinstein “a freak” but counseled us all that Hefner is a man we all should respect and revere.
We all publicly condemn the “wolf” but privately admire his wantonness on wall street.
We swallow the “50 Shades” cocktail whole sale, but this roofie-laced reality is much darker than grey.
We have, as Chesterton so cleverly put it, found our “feet firmly planted in mid-air.” We’re caught in this Catch-22 of borrowing from differing worldviews for convenience: we deny what we affirm and vice versa for temporary benefit.
We crave E.L. James’ depiction of sex, but we also want respect. We idolize Jordan Belfort’s swinger lifestyle but need sustainable love.
I imagine that I may endure some great opposition from this series. That’s okay. What will follow needs to be said (and applied).
So, in efforts to break the ice on what will be an extremely controversial and challenging series, I would like to let some experts chime in.
(Photo Courtesy: profile picture from wheaton.edu)
Meet Read Mercer Schuchardt. He’s a doctorate, writer, and professor from Wheaton College.
The following excerpts I quote below come from him. If preferred, you can see the full article here (it’s long!). I discovered it “randomly” through another article right after Hugh Hefner passed away.
*** Read with caution. Not only is the content racy, but it is extremely revealing and can leave one raw. ***
But despite the risk, I see no other way in redeeming the exploited and wounded #metoo generation emerging before us.
Human sexuality has been reduced to a cavalier business.
Don’t believe me? The porn industry is undeniably the top-grossing business worldwide.
Or, see if Hollywood can avoid proving me right for one day. Spoiler alert! They won’t.
“Sex sells,” is the old adage. And if we’re honest, it’s the M.O. for most.
And when people are diminished to commodities, it’s simply just supply and demand.
But enough is enough! We MUST climb into the “pits” we have dug through our support and/or willful ignorance. Yes, it will be messy, slippery, and dark, but there is HOPE!
Time’s up is a start, but I’m unsatisfied there. Bringing justice, advocacy, and the like are great, but I’m looking to pick this weed by its root.
Please, join me as we turn #metoo into #menever.
The following are excerpts from Dr. Schuchardt mentioned above.
“Bring it out in the open,” Hefner said, “and you’ll feel better.” Well, like it or not, the Playboy Philosophy is now your culture’s philosophy. Do you feel better?
In launching Playboy, perhaps the smartest thing Hugh Hefner did was in establishing his personality as that of a witty, urbane sophisticate who enjoyed the company of many, many young women. After all, who knows how many fewer copies the magazine might have sold, had he instead depicted himself as a solitary masturbator?
—Tim Carvell, “History’s Great Persons Reconsidered,” on McSweeneys.net
Agnostic or Anglican, it’s pretty hard to deny the complete cultural victory of pornography in America today. Hollywood releases four hundred films each year, while the pornography industry releases seven hundred movies each month. During the internet boom the domain name “business.com” sold for a record-breaking $7.5 million—but in a court case, the domain name sex.com was valued at $65 million. Not surprising, since porn is, at a minimum, a $10 billion a year business. Porn stars are making their way off the screen into mainstream culture, showing up everywhere from Cannes to Maxim. Fifty years ago an American girl would have been ashamed to be seen in public with too little on—now she’s ashamed to be seen with too much on. Even if she’s in church.
According to the official biographies, Hugh Marston Hefner was the emotionally needy byproduct of Grace, a devout Methodist mother who never hugged him. As Hefner puts it, “I was a very idealistic, very romantic kid in a very typically Midwestern Methodist repressed home. There was no show of affection of any kind, and I escaped to dreams and fantasies produced, by and large, by the music and the movies of the ’30s.” No mention anywhere is made of Hefner’s father. Ever. In 1948, when Alfred Kinsey released his now completely debunked mythology, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, Hefner praised it in a college newspaper.
They’ll never know because they’ll never stop showing naked women, but currently it sells very well—Playboy has about 4.5 million “readers.” And yet this success couldn’t be taken for granted when Hefner began. The photograph had been invented in 1839, and the word “pornographer” had entered the dictionary a mere eleven years later, but for 114 more years pornography was still very far from mainstream. The only pornography available was the really dirty stuff, grainy black-and-white picture cards and stag reels made with old hookers and alcoholic johns. It was a vile business in an underground market. And because you had to physically show up to obtain it, participating in pornography meant publicly admitting that you were a pervert, even if only to a group of other perverts.
What pornography needed to be profitable on a mass scale was to be removed from the sexual ghetto and brought into the living room. It needed someone to adopt it, domesticate it, and teach it manners.
As an adman, Hefner saw the need to package sexuality into aspirational categories, to tell a story about it that placed men in the narrative itself in a way that was not just acceptable, but downright desirable. Thus he packaged himself as a Victorian gentleman at the hunting lodge. Credit Hefner with the whole mythology that this was “adult” entertainment for “men,” adding the same aura of pseudo-sophistication that is still exploited fifty years later by bars with names like “A Gentleman’s Club.” Later, when Playboy started to succeed financially, Hefner further gentrified the perception of sexuality by hiring writers like Norman Mailer and John Updike to offer intellectual essays on the cultured life.
G. K. Chesterton suggests that Hitler could have been laughed off the stage if the German people weren’t so serious. So too could Hefner have been shamed into obscurity if Americans weren’t so prudish. And Hefner’s strategy included this brilliant Catch-22: any expression of moral outrage about Playboy would entail the admission that you had seen it. If it was so morally objectionable, why were you looking at it? This is still the main reason that Christians of all stripes ignore or deny any knowledge of pornography, when it is they who should be the most willing to discuss the glory and grandeur of sex as God designed it. Following Hefner’s cue, apologists for the porn industry today love nothing more than pointing out the hypocrisy of expressing moral outrage over porn while so many—including many of the critics—are simultaneously consuming it. If everyone’s secretly doing it, Hefner argued, why be so prudish and puritanical about it? Bring it out into the open and you’ll feel a lot better.
Unitarian minister John A. Crane, who wrote:
It strikes me that Playboy is a religious magazine, though I will admit I have peculiar understanding of the meaning of the word. What I mean is that the magazine tells its readers how to get into heaven. It tells them what is important in life, delineates an ethics for them, tells them how to relate to others, tells them what to lavish their attention and energy upon, gives them a model of a kind of person to be. It expresses a consistent world view, a system of values, philosophical outlook.
Not only does Playboy create a new image of the ideal man, it also creates a slick little universe all its own, creates what you might call an alternative version of reality in which men may live in their minds. It’s a light and jolly kind of universe, a world in which a man can be forever carefree, like Peter Pan, a boy forever and ever. There are no nagging demands and responsibilities, no complexities or complications.
Today, of course, this “alternative version of reality” is the world that we all live in.
Rabbi Marc Tanenbaum offered up a classic summary of the total defeat of the religious establishment:
We are dealing with new realities and our problem, as conscientious members of the religious community, is to try and decide to what extent our classic positions must be changed to accommodate the new realities—to what extent are we trying to impose the classic positions on contemporary society in an attempt to get it to conform more to what we have regarded in the past as the good, the true, and the beautiful.
If you’re under the age of forty, you might mistake Hefner’s topsy-turvy world for normal, since it’s the world you were born into. Hefner succeeded at inverting gender roles by feminizing men and masculinizing women. First Hefner domesticated men: he took them out of the field and stream and into the living room.
Chris Colin of Salon puts it this way:
The Playboy universe encouraged appreciation of the “finer things”—literature, a good pipe, a cashmere pullover, a beautiful lady. America was seeing the advent of the urban single male who, lest his subversive departure from domestic norms suggest homosexuality, was now enjoying new photos of nude women every month.
Echoes of this feminization are still heard today in films like Fight Club, where “a generation of men raised by women” wonder why they even know words like “duvet.” Key to this extension of bachelorhood was the need to fend off any suspicion of homosexuality, something Playboy and pornography have had in common since their inception. The supply and demand for pornography, after all, is overwhelmingly from men to men. And pornography assumes (and then demands) of women a sex drive that used to be associated only with men. (Unlike women, the joke goes, men don’t need a reason for sex, they just need a place.) As the porn star Annabel Chong said in Harper’s magazine of her World’s Biggest Gang Bang, “It’s a very homoerotic thing. . . . I’m just there to guarantee the heterosexuality of it all.”
In Hugh Hefner’s world, meanwhile, equality for females has come to mean synonymity with males. Unisex clothing is: male. Unisex hairstyles are: male. Equal pay for equal work is: male (inasmuch as it assumes the irrelevance of childbirth, and certainly of childrearing). Thanks largely to Hefner’s pioneering spirit, men have won every battle in the modern war between the sexes. Where women are free and equal, they are free and equal to be men. Just go shopping at the Gap. Or pick up any women’s magazine published in the last few decades. In it you will find an article, essay, or questionnaire demonstrating or demanding that women should have more sex than they are currently having. Is there an escape, a way out, a means by which a woman can choose not to have her social norms and sexual drives dictated to by porn culture? In America right now, three out of four converts to Islam are women. Call it a jihad of the hijab.
Even the bodies of women—especially their bodies—have become increasingly masculinized in the last fifty years. As Tom Wolfe describes it in A Man In Full, today’s ideal female is “a boy with breasts.” Though the original Playboy bunnies actually looked like women you might want to marry, the bunnies of today are lean, mean sex machines. Their breasts are enhanced with silicone because their body fat percentage usually precludes the possibility of an ample bosom, as well as, in many cases, the possibility of a baby (the biological reason women have extra fat in the first place). The average real woman weighs about 140 pounds. The average Playmate weighs 115. Pamela Anderson, the “full-figured” Playmate of a few years back, was 11 percent under the average woman’s weight for her height, and even then a portion of that beauty was added silicone.
The Playboy Philosophy, which requires women to be thin, infertile, and always available, essentially requires childlessness. And you can bet your birth control packet that abortion is the natural bedfellow of the successful playboy. The Playboy Foundation, the (ahem) philanthropic wing of Playboy Enterprises, provides grants and donations to a wide range of projects, most involving reproductive rights and freedom of speech—industry code for promoting sexual license as a natural right and abortion as a failsafe guarantee. Hence the heavy support of the ACLU, Planned Parenthood, NARAL, and similarly single-minded organizations. On the playboyenterprises.com Web site you can witness the Playboy bunny icon digitally morphing, with breathtaking symbolic audacity, into a dove of peace winging its way around the world. Why is he so at peace? Because Hefner has made the world safe for a 50 percent divorce rate, guaranteeing him a constant stream of beautiful and financially vulnerable young women.
Of course, Hugh Hefner is on the side of women’s liberation—as long as it supports his “incredible machine that brings to me the most beautiful young women . . . already wanting to be . . . part of my life.” What could be better for an irresponsible and sexually aggressive male than an entire culture that views women as sex objects, views pregnancy as a disease, and offers abortion as its cure?
Just ask Hefner himself. Here he is, in the first issue of Playboy, telling real women where to go:
We want to make it clear from the very start, we aren’t a “family magazine.” If you’re somebody’s sister, wife or mother-in-law and picked us up by mistake, please pass us along to the man in your life and get back to your “Ladies Home Companion.”
This is the boy’s club, in other words, and you girls are not allowed.
So when Hefner says, “The major beneficiary of the sexual revolution is women, not men,” you’re completely right to be scratching your head in confusion. Porn culture demands of women precisely what real women don’t need or want: skinny bodies, huge fake breasts, no babies, and men who are unwilling to commit to anything more than a quick shag. In a Vanity Fair cover story last March, Hefner exclaimed, “But here’s the surprise—this is what they want.” If this is really what they want, then why would the playboy.com FAQ state that the average Playmate’s fourth highest ambition is “having a family”?
Until July 2001, Hefner could claim that he never pushed the envelope into harder or grittier pornography—a word that Playboy always resisted for its own wares. But without Hefner’s initial timorous first step, which met with so little resistance, there would have been no Larry Flynt, Bob Guccione, or any of the others who pushed sex to the outer limit of acceptability, a limit that now changes almost hourly. In July 2001, Playboy itself, once so proud of its “gentleman’s” standards, embraced the outer boundaries of what it once found to be, well, pornographic, acquiring three X-rated sex channels from Vivid Video, one of the largest producers of porn movies. Playboy Enterprises is now the dominant economic force in pornographic television programming…
Hefner’s Playmates—and, in the culture he has done so much to shape, all women—are primarily visual objects, metaphysically truncated to their improbable physical attributes. Among the consequences: all female rock stars are now obliged to be beautiful, contributing to a dearth of quality female vocalists—not because women can’t sing, but because pornographic culture won’t allow any but the most beautiful women to get on the stage. The same is true for female newscasters and waitresses, but the irony is doubly poignant in the music industry, where the melodious sound of someone’s voice may never get to your ears because they lack the visual appeal required by mass marketing. If the future sounds like Britney Spears, then please, give us back Janis Joplin, Mamma Cass, and Barbara Streisand.
Like the serpent in the garden, Hefner has accomplished all of this while hiding in plain sight. Listen to Vladimir Nabokov as he introduces and defends Lolita, which he wrote in fifty-six frenzied days in 1954, not long after the first issue of Playboy was published. Nabokov’s eerily familiar words may unwittingly (or wittingly, who knows?) be the best description of Hefner and Playboy you’re likely to find:
I have no intention to glorify “H.H.” No doubt, he is horrible, he is abject, he is a shining example of moral leprosy, a mixture of ferocity and jocularity that betrays supreme misery perhaps, but is not conducive to attractiveness. He is ponderously capricious. Many of his casual opinions on the people and scenery of this country are ludicrous. A desperate honesty that throbs through his confession does not absolve him from sins of diabolical cunning. He is abnormal. He is not a gentleman. But how magically his singing violin can conjure up a tendresse, a compassion for Lolita that makes us entranced with the book while abhorring its author!
The man who opened the box has quite a bit in common with Nabokov’s “H.H.” As he puts it, he’s spent a lifetime “living the fantasy life of an adolescent boy.” Don’t you wish you could peek in on that incredible fantasy? Well, now you can.
Hiding in plain sight in the June 2001 issue of Philadelphia magazine is Ben Wallace’s essay “The Prodigy and the Playmate.” In it Sandy Bentley, the Playboy cover girl and former Hefner girlfriend (along with her twin sister Mandy), describes Hugh Hefner’s current sexual practices in just enough detail to give you a good long pause:
The heterosexual icon [Hugh Hefner] . . . had trouble finding satisfaction through intercourse; instead, he liked the girls to pleasure each other while he masturbated and watched gay porn.
Yes, you read that right. There it is, attributed to someone who ought to know, the stated fact on the public record. It may seem shocking or it may seem trivial, but it amounts to a significant confirmation that Hugh Hefner embodies what his detractors have been saying for years: All pornography is ultimately homosexual. All pornography stifles the development of genuine human relationships. All pornography is a manifestation of arrested development. All pornography reduces spiritual desire to Newtonian mechanics. All pornography, indulged long enough, hollows out sex to the point where even the horniest old Viagra-stoked goat is unable to physically enjoy the bodies of nubile young females.
“Where would I be without everyone else’s fantasies.” ~ Hugh Hefner
I know…that was like drinking water from a fire hydrant! And it was a bitter cup at that! But we have to go here. There is no other way if we are serious about turning the #metoo tide.
In the posts to come, we will zero in on some of the sections quoted above and allow others to provide their observations for support.
To conclude, what did you think of Dr. Schuchardt’s presentation on Playboy, pornography, and its progress within the public sphere?
What did you think of his conclusions regarding Hugh Hefner’s influence upon society?
How can the concerns raised by Dr. Schuchardt apply to the Donald Trump’s, Harvey Weinstein’s, Charlie Rose’s, Al Franken’s, Kevin Spacey’s, and Matt Lauer’s of our world?
Do you affirm OR deny and despise the connections drawn between “private pleasure” and the prostitution of our populace?
I firmly believe in the quotes from Martin Luther King, Jr. that I have included throughout this post.
The time is ALWAYS right to do what is right. Silence on things that matter is a sign of death, personally and culturally.
If we are to see HOPE and HEALING within the #metoo mudslide, we all have roles to play.
No more idle deflection or indifferent denial. No more consent, redefining, accomodation, exceptions, or blind eyes.
I’m calling on everyone, especially men, to step up in advocating for perhaps the most overlooked and subjugated people group in human history: women.
Imagine a world where men were the champions, not customers, of women; where every man treated every woman with the same respect and honor as his mother, sister, or daughter.
This will NOT be easy, but Goliath has fallen before.
More to come. Until next time, keep the HOPE by seeking liberty and justice for all!