We’ll Take “Rejected” For $200, Alex!

Prayer:

-New OB team notified us (almost 2 weeks later?!) that they will cancel my appt. and won’t accept me as a patient.

-Still in search of new OB team

-Wisdom regarding hospital choice between two options for labor/delivery and how to ensure baby is transferred to children’s hospital

-That Elias comes naturally before his due date!

Praise:

-Came back to my original specialist team, met with Dr. today, great rapport. He is very empathetic and agrees that our requests are reasonable for birth and baby.

-Dr. is in process of helping us get established with new OB.

-Besides his current health diagnosis, all of Elias’s vitals are stable & strong.

Details:

This last week has not been without medical drama and suspense  I had been anticipating Monday, Aug. 31 as a time that I would meet with my initial specialist group, AND that same day I was supposed to have an appt. with a potential new OB team.  It was nice to look forward to those appointments and feel that things should be more clear on Monday.  Well, I received an unexpected call Thursday evening that my appt. with the new OB team was cancelled.  I immediately returned the office call on Friday and was told there was nothing to discuss, but they would not accept me due to info they received in a letter from my current provider?!  I asked if this team had my records and they said, “No, they didn’t transfer your records.”  This new OB office couldn’t disclose any more info, and there was no discussion.  Period.

Needless to say, I was pretty crushed.  Rejected completely out of my control probably best describes my feelings.  I told the office I was very disappointed that they waited almost 2 weeks to tell me I was denied?  (Not to mention rude!)  There are a lot of other minor details, and THE CLOCK IS TICKING.  I’m now 36 weeks, basically at the point of what some Dr.’s consider full-term.  How the Lord will allow this to work out, we do not know!!

Thankfully, my appointment with the specialist, Dr. G, was still in effect…

So, that is what today was all about:

Dr. G was the difference of night and day from my previous Dr.  He is down-to-earth and very rational.  He clearly articulated both sides of research for our specific circumstances, and made sure we understood.  We told him we highly appreciated it.  We shared our hopes, goals, and philosophy of labor and birth, and he said that nothing was unreasonable.  (We’re not crazy!! 🙂  He assured us what we experienced was unfortunate, and he apologized for the challenge. Dr. G also told us that though we were at the end, and that it is very difficult to get a new OB to accept a high-risk patient, their team was there to help make sure that we had the resources we needed and know that we are not alone.  Thank you, Jesus!

(Cue Jeopardy tune….)

So, still some waiting going on, but we have advocacy!  It is so re-assuring of God’s faithfulness.

Currently, this team is trying to help get us a good established OB because the specialists don’t typically do deliveries.  They’re mostly there for consult, review, and explaining the ultrasound diagnosis.  Hopefully, in the next few days, we’ll get a response from some of the Dr.’s who have been contacted on our behalf.

Elias’s Ultrasound Today:

PLEASE keep up the prayers!!  All of Elias’s vitals are healthy and stable, despite his isolated issue on his spine/brain.  Praise: Currently, the brain fluid is not at an alarming level, so we want to pray that this remains the case!  If it drastically increases, we would have to induce.

The other big concern is that this baby arrives before his due date.  If his due date comes, we will have to be induced.  I really prefer to avoid that route, and we will do everything we can,  but there is only so much in our control!  {My other babies were 1 and 2 weeks late so hope/pray this little guy will be in his own field 😉 }

Our family is thankful for the ongoing support of prayer warriors and loved ones!!  We know that it is a huge source for us experiencing the peace and (re-)direction that we have.

IMG_0607 edited copy   <— These two girlies are ready to be big sisters! 

(January 2015~ This is the picture we showed our family to share news about baby #3 being on the way)

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Comments

  1. Every closed door is God directing you to the best door and it will open!! He is so faithful. Hang on precious friends as you are riding this ride, you are doing a wonderful job step by step clinging to our Heavenly Father. I am praying and am here if you need anything please ask…Love you

  2. I would love to take a peek at the letter that your current provider sent the possible new OB team! Just out of curiosity if it was made to inform, insult or intimidate. I used to work at an OB’s office and know that they aren’t always professional when speaking to other doctors about their patients. I’m assuming your current OB is not fond of you guys one bit since you are not falling into line with what they think is best. Its a fine line to tread since your current provider may still deliver your son and you don’t want to be completely on their bad side. Sounds like they think you are not putting your sons health over your wants and desires. I have no judgement either way. We’ve been praying for discernment for you guys since we heard about his probable health problems. I trust that you will be guided to do whats best for your son and yourselves. However, I am VERY aware that birth plans are almost useless, especially with a baby with medical problems. I was so happy I picked a hospital to deliver at that had a level 4 NICU. Spring Valley Hospital in Las Vegas…what an AWESOME and amazing place!!! They had infant Dr’s and specialists on hand and on call. It was such a blessing to have them all there working hard and being Change Makers from the very beginning. In a situation where I didn’t know what was going on and how to help, it was wonderful that they had it all under control. I knew, I felt a real push, to choose the hospital with the level 4 NICU. I didn’t fight the urge to choose it even though it was farther from my home. I figured what would it hurt having the extra care there. If I didn’t work out the day I went into labor then I could always go to the closer hospitals ER and they would set me up with a delivery team in their delivery unit. Just glad for us that God made his choice for us clear since I really don’t think I could have held it together without all the specialists there giving us information. I also loved and truly appreciated the female staff members who helped with my breast feeding and emotional support. There were even volunteers who brought in crocheted gifts for our new baby girl whom they heard had health problems. Meant more than words can say. Well obviously your current OB has one hell of a letter that is scaring or convincing other Dr’s to not take on your care. With all of the liabilities a new OB would be taking on with your care I can’t say I blame them to not take you on so far along in the game. If it was me I would keep going to your current provider with a smile so you know your getting the best care from them. I didn’t like my OB with either of my girls and God made it work that two different OB’s (whom I ending up loving) delivered both my girls. Who knows maybe your current provider will be sick, on vaca or voluntarily pass your case to the on call OB that night. Fingers crossed since you would find much more peace with someone you could trust or didn’t even know. Because then you could just both roll with the punches as they come…together. Its the pre-delivery talk and planning that OB’s usually stand firm on but in the moment they flex a WHOLE lot more. You definitely have more pull on delivery day since there are more staff members (nurses, OB’s, Doctors, Specialists, Surgeons) involved. Unless you miraculously get approved by a new OB in time…which odds are SOOO against that….then I have to have faith that God placed you with your current OB for a reason. Maybe not to follow their wishes…or yours on delivery day but to set you both up to follow his wishes. I should mention that I hated one of the delivery nurses I had with Ang. She actually wouldn’t allow my family to come in to see me in my room when they came to visit me prior to delivery. I was livid since it wasn’t even close to push time and they really didn’t think Ang would have any emergency problems at birth. I was so rude to that nurse, more rude than I probably would have liked since I was relaxed from pain medicine. I remember telling Tommy that our experience at the hospital was so great until we met her and we wished we would have gotten a different nurse. Well all be darned it she wasn’t the one to save Ang’s life after delivery. My doctor wanted me to hold Ang on my chest and let her breast feed right away despite a small raspy noise she was making. The nurse we didn’t like insisted on using the suction tube and when it didn’t go all the way down she tried and tried again. Instead of giving up like my OB told her to she went against her requests and brought her to the NICU. Because of that nurse following her gut, Angel whispers, she pushed to have her scanned where they found her esophagus actually dead ended and the only tube in her throat went straight to her lungs. If she would have laid on my chest then the fluid in her mouth wouldn’t have gone to her stomach not her lungs and would have gotten pneumonia or drowned. Thank heavens she prevented us from trying to immediately feed her which is what I was hoping to do. Her esophageal doctor said that babies who are born with her condition and immediately feed have a very low survival rate. So the one person me and Tommy wished wasn’t there was the only one there with a miraculous purpose. Just tread softly since I am so glad I didn’t end up pushing that nurse out of the picture. I can’t even imagine our life now without her role in it. I trust with ALL my heart that you are being guided to where you need to be. It sounds like a lot of struggling with not a whole lot of result. I’m really wondering if you are being set up to currently fail so you can get your miraculous event too. We’ll keep praying for your family and for your sons health and will be keeping you in my thoughts and heart while your in the trenches. Lots of hugs!!!

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      Thank you for reading and sharing, Lisa!
      I can appreciate all that you shared- you clearly experienced God’s hand over all that happened with your daughter’s birth,… so inspiring! We have faith and trust the Lord to use all the details to work out for Elias better than we can 🙂
      Currently, we’re following advice of a few sources of counsel to try to attempt to get a new OB (which will be a miracle); if it doesn’t work out, we have no doubt God will be faithful and use the resources we have in place. You’re so right that we have no idea how God will be using things in the end! Thank you again for you and your family’s support, friend! ~Love, Krystal

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